“I am responsible for other’s emotions.”
Her mother was always angry.
There was nothing you could do to reason with her.
She would shame her and the rest of the family into making false apologies and would force them to take responsibility for things that were not theirs to take.
She would blame her daughter for her being unhappy.
She had unreasonable requirements that were impossible to fulfill. She was never at fault. It was always someone else’s fault.
She demanded that everyone else take ownership for her problems.
Her co-worker was the same way. She would blame her for not feeling included in the group and would not accept her own responsibility to communicate her needs. She expected everyone else to read her mind and meet all her needs.
Both of them had taught her a lie:
I am responsible for other’s emotions.
She accused and forgave both of them before God for teaching her this lie.
She asked God how she should be acting towards her mom. She saw a picture of her mom hitting her with a dirty mop, making her dirty. She put the mop away and told her mom, “You cannot do this to me anymore.”
She also confessed her own part in believing the lie and trying to take responsibility that wasn’t hers to take. She asked for God’s forgiveness.
She rejected this lie and asked God to give her a truth to replace it.
She saw a hamburger.
That’s what I said. This is probably one of the strangest truths that I have ever witnessed God give in response to a lie.
She was holding the hamburger tightly when someone came up to her and tried to cut it up. When she wouldn’t let them do this, they got angry and threw it on the ground and stomped it.
When she looked closer, she saw that the meat was black.
This picture confused her so she asked God to explain it to her. Apparently God is still in the business of speaking in parables.
God told her that the Hamburger is something that can give strength when she is hungry and that the meat is not bad for her. It is good food and it tastes good. This other person saw the meat as bad and called it bad, which made her think that it was bad.
I asked her what the meat represented. She said it was her words.
I asked her what the entire hamburger represented. She said it was her.
God continued to unfold the picture in her mind. She saw other people coming to her and helping her clean off the meat, which only had dust on it, making it black. These people reacted to her words in love by helping her instead of being angry.
Her words were meant to bring strength to herself and others.
She is a blessing.
This is true even if her words aren’t perfect. Some people will react to her words with violence while others will react in helpful love.
I used to think that what I have to say is awkward and horrible.
I used to think that I caused people trouble.
I used to blame myself when people got angry at me.
Now I feel like my words are a blessing to people!
The truth is that my life and words are a blessing.
Father, I give up the lie that I always speak badly and create trouble for people.
Thank you for letting me know for the first time that when I speak I can bring happiness and blessing to people…
That it’s not my fault when people get angry when I speak.
I am a hamburger – God’s hamburger!
I am a blessing.
Help me to live the life of a hamburger.
Thank you for bringing this hamburger into my life.
I used to think my mouth was zipped shut and it was hard to open. Today my mouth was unzipped and the zipper was taken out.
Seriously, I’m not making this stuff up… how could I?
This woman is an active minister of the gospel in a country where that could get her into serious trouble.
This truth from God, no matter how strange, unlocked her lips to speak truth from a place of freedom, not fear.
Teaching and speaking used to be a burden because she was afraid that she was going to cause someone to be angry at her. Now she knows that she is a blessing to those that God brings to her.